Spring Break
Attraction: It's The Same For Every Species
Ryan Tansey
Issue date: 6/9/08 Section: Commentary
Does this mean that all women are shallow gold-diggers, and all men are simply interested in the most attractive, evolutionarily viable woman? In a cynical sense, the answer is actually yes. Most people deny this shallow aspect of their own personality, choosing rather to bury their heads in the sand of idealism claiming all they want is "someone who loves and cares about them" and that "money and looks don't matter." But, all it takes is one look at John McCain's wife to smell the lack of truth present in that statement, as one realizes that the same man working as a cashier at McDonalds would not be married to someone that looks like that.
It is commonly repeated that deep, emotional and long-term connections result not from finding a perfect person, but by rather "seeing an imperfect person, perfectly." The real nature of that statement, however, is just not the idealistic, Disney movie version of human romance that it is commonly associated with. Rather, what the statement ought to reflect is the truth: that, in reality, the perfections of a person, whether it be in terms of looks or wealth, can overshadow other imperfections such as a lack of intelligence or social awareness. Thus, while the lovable loser may never get the high school hottie, it's totally possible for a billionaire geek to get a supermodel spouse.
Staff Columnist Ryan Tansey is a 7th-semester psychology and political science major. He can be contacted at Ryan.Tansey@UConn.edu.
It is commonly repeated that deep, emotional and long-term connections result not from finding a perfect person, but by rather "seeing an imperfect person, perfectly." The real nature of that statement, however, is just not the idealistic, Disney movie version of human romance that it is commonly associated with. Rather, what the statement ought to reflect is the truth: that, in reality, the perfections of a person, whether it be in terms of looks or wealth, can overshadow other imperfections such as a lack of intelligence or social awareness. Thus, while the lovable loser may never get the high school hottie, it's totally possible for a billionaire geek to get a supermodel spouse.
Staff Columnist Ryan Tansey is a 7th-semester psychology and political science major. He can be contacted at Ryan.Tansey@UConn.edu.
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Mark
posted 6/09/08 @ 11:26 AM EST
What people are actually attracted to and what they SAY they are attracted to when some guy doing a survey asks them are 2 different things entirely. Most people have absolutely no idea what they're really attracted to, because its all emotional and done without conscious thought or choice. (Continued…)
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