Spring Break
Third person is a charm
Alyssa Carroll
Issue date: 2/18/09 Section: Focus
We all know one is the loneliest number when it comes to your sex life. Two is perfect for quality, but what about three? Threesomes, foursomes and more-somes can quickly become complicated. So what should a couple do when they are interested in having a romantic guest-appearance? One word: communicate.
Communication is going to be key when bringing another person into your private no-pants dance. Consider seriously whether you are going to feel threatened or jealous as your partner kisses, touches, spoons and does more with another person. Remember that the realities of adding another person are going to be different from the pornographic fantasy where no feelings are involved.
For couples still interested in adding another set of tools to their usual routine, it is important to seriously talk about who you are interested in sending an invitation to. Remember that this campus is only so large, and the chances of seeing your guest star again are high.
Asking a friend may be a safe and fun route. After all, you trade secrets, sweaters and snacks, so why not some fluids? However, it is unrealistic to think that things won't change between all of you the morning after. Suddenly casual conversations about how great the hotdogs were at lunch or how great that slam-dunk last night was are going to sound like innuendo. Questions may linger about who out-performed whom, and statements such as, "Wow, I never knew about your third nipple" may suddenly become fair game.
If considering some smoldering stranger, take your health and safety into great consideration. Sure, that person looked clean and freaky in a fun way when they were walking down Fairfield Way earlier, but be careful. Open conversation is going to be necessary with any potential partners. Sexually transmitted diseases don't glow in the dark, so honesty is going to be crucial.
Once the third leg of the tripod has been chosen and his or her cameo appearance is all set, make sure you set some ground rules with your partner first. Who can put what where? Whose hands are allowed where? Is kissing on the mouth OK? Setting up guidelines is going to be essential for a successful group activity. Discuss first with your partner what both of you feel comfortable doing, and seeing your partner doing, so that there are no surprises or hurt feelings later on.
So, if you and a loved one, or you and just some attractive, clean people are looking for a new kind of fun, remember that old idiom, "The more the merrier."
Just don't forget, if you hit five, that's an orgy.
Communication is going to be key when bringing another person into your private no-pants dance. Consider seriously whether you are going to feel threatened or jealous as your partner kisses, touches, spoons and does more with another person. Remember that the realities of adding another person are going to be different from the pornographic fantasy where no feelings are involved.
For couples still interested in adding another set of tools to their usual routine, it is important to seriously talk about who you are interested in sending an invitation to. Remember that this campus is only so large, and the chances of seeing your guest star again are high.
Asking a friend may be a safe and fun route. After all, you trade secrets, sweaters and snacks, so why not some fluids? However, it is unrealistic to think that things won't change between all of you the morning after. Suddenly casual conversations about how great the hotdogs were at lunch or how great that slam-dunk last night was are going to sound like innuendo. Questions may linger about who out-performed whom, and statements such as, "Wow, I never knew about your third nipple" may suddenly become fair game.
If considering some smoldering stranger, take your health and safety into great consideration. Sure, that person looked clean and freaky in a fun way when they were walking down Fairfield Way earlier, but be careful. Open conversation is going to be necessary with any potential partners. Sexually transmitted diseases don't glow in the dark, so honesty is going to be crucial.
Once the third leg of the tripod has been chosen and his or her cameo appearance is all set, make sure you set some ground rules with your partner first. Who can put what where? Whose hands are allowed where? Is kissing on the mouth OK? Setting up guidelines is going to be essential for a successful group activity. Discuss first with your partner what both of you feel comfortable doing, and seeing your partner doing, so that there are no surprises or hurt feelings later on.
So, if you and a loved one, or you and just some attractive, clean people are looking for a new kind of fun, remember that old idiom, "The more the merrier."
Just don't forget, if you hit five, that's an orgy.
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