Spring Break
Dirty talking makes things more interesting
Alyssa Carroll
Issue date: 4/1/09 Section: Commentary
Though dirty talk is a known way to heat things up, the right way to do it is not always as clear. When delivered improperly - such as "I'm now slithering into your...um…warm wonder cave" - a mood, and potentially a relationship, can be ruined.
While dirty talk is usually sexiest when not premeditated, there are a few general guidelines that can ease the awkwardness and potential undoing of your love romp.
One of the main things to avoid when using dirty talk is an unattractive adjective. As a general rule, stay away from words such as gaping, loose, moist, furry, wide-set or serrated when describing sensations or a partner.
Similarly, avoid using phrases that you would use to describe things you could do to a garbage can, such as "I'm stuffing you," "holy crap that smells," "when's the last time you emptied that thing," and "just shove it in there."
When discussing body parts, also take great caution. People enjoy hearing how sexy their bodies and naughty bits are, but some phrases can immediately kill a situation. Never ever refer to your partner's downstairs region as a meat stick, hairy axe wound, worm, little guy or one-eyed wonder. Use the real name, or if comfortable, venture into the fun, porn-friendly animal terms. Apply caution here, as some females have a hard time hearing their lady piece being referred to as a certain feline friend and may be immediately turned off.
For a successful ease into dirty talk, think of it as a sexy interview. "How do you want it," "what do you want me to do to you," and "do you like it when I do that" are all questions that can be sexy when delivered with confidence, and provide insight into what your partner is looking for from you.
Tell your partner how extremely attractive you think they are in both conventional and unconventional ways. People are more likely to be adventurous when they feel attractive to themselves and to their partner. Let them know how good they look, feel and perform during the act. A well placed "you're so incredibly hot," or "I love how you do that" can make a person feel inclined to be more sexually free.
Letting someone know how badly you want to do things to him or her can also be sexy. "I really want to go down on you" or "I need you inside me" make a partner feel wanted and attractive.
Dirty talk is a fun and easy way to become more comfortable with a partner, while simultaneously finding out what they like. Use it as a means of getting turned on and also finding out what you're doing right.
So, the next time you hop on the good foot and do the bad thing, try tossing a few sexy statements around about being in or around your partner.
While dirty talk is usually sexiest when not premeditated, there are a few general guidelines that can ease the awkwardness and potential undoing of your love romp.
One of the main things to avoid when using dirty talk is an unattractive adjective. As a general rule, stay away from words such as gaping, loose, moist, furry, wide-set or serrated when describing sensations or a partner.
Similarly, avoid using phrases that you would use to describe things you could do to a garbage can, such as "I'm stuffing you," "holy crap that smells," "when's the last time you emptied that thing," and "just shove it in there."
When discussing body parts, also take great caution. People enjoy hearing how sexy their bodies and naughty bits are, but some phrases can immediately kill a situation. Never ever refer to your partner's downstairs region as a meat stick, hairy axe wound, worm, little guy or one-eyed wonder. Use the real name, or if comfortable, venture into the fun, porn-friendly animal terms. Apply caution here, as some females have a hard time hearing their lady piece being referred to as a certain feline friend and may be immediately turned off.
For a successful ease into dirty talk, think of it as a sexy interview. "How do you want it," "what do you want me to do to you," and "do you like it when I do that" are all questions that can be sexy when delivered with confidence, and provide insight into what your partner is looking for from you.
Tell your partner how extremely attractive you think they are in both conventional and unconventional ways. People are more likely to be adventurous when they feel attractive to themselves and to their partner. Let them know how good they look, feel and perform during the act. A well placed "you're so incredibly hot," or "I love how you do that" can make a person feel inclined to be more sexually free.
Letting someone know how badly you want to do things to him or her can also be sexy. "I really want to go down on you" or "I need you inside me" make a partner feel wanted and attractive.
Dirty talk is a fun and easy way to become more comfortable with a partner, while simultaneously finding out what they like. Use it as a means of getting turned on and also finding out what you're doing right.
So, the next time you hop on the good foot and do the bad thing, try tossing a few sexy statements around about being in or around your partner.
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